The Quarter Life Crises 

You know how people experience a mid-life crisis when they’re in thier 30’s or 40’s and they start to wonder

 “What am I doing with my life?”

Well, I was talking to a friend a while back and she told me that she feels like she’s letting life pass her by and she didn’t really enjoy her teen years. Now she’s twenty she wants to do all the things she never did because of the FOMO (Fear of missing out) and the fact that she’s entering the “real” world. It is kind of scary…and I can sort of relate.

It’s like we spend our whole lives looking forward to the future. Never really just enjoying the present moment. We are in primary school to get into secondary school, secondary school to university, university to a job. Until one day you’re 30, married with kids sitting down thinking.

How? Did I really enjoy the journey? When is my life supposed to feel like it should?

Because everything went by so quickly you never got a chance to savor it. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to work towards a goal and look forward to the future but I think sometimes it’s okay to just sit back and enjoy that stage of life you are in. You may only get it once. You’re young for a really short time and an adult for the longest.


I realized that in some things in life the journey is more memorable and gratifying than the destination. Once you get what you wanted it’s a 5 second euphoria and then you’re like “Okay, what’s next?”. That’s how your teenage years or even adult years pass you by.

The “real” world is also scary because school is all I’ve ever known. How will I cope with never doing it again? Am I ready for it? Did I really make the right career choice?

These are serious questions. However I always try to have faith in the future and positive outlook. Obsessing over a future I can’t control is a waste of time. Why kill myself with worry? A positive outlook is not a very easy mindset to adopt but whenever I am stressed out I remember this bible passage:

(Mathew 6:25-27):

25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?

That being said pick up a good book, play the ukulele, go out, get some fresh air and just enjoy the moment.

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