What Does Love Mean To Me?

What Does Love Mean To Me?

Love is such a strong and peculiar emotion that is very interesting to me. I have never been “In love” but I have loved and experienced the love of other people.

In the spirit of Valentines day. I thought I should revive one of my short, rambling posts and publish it since it’s so fitting for the season! What does love mean to you?

Here is my understanding of love. Love to me is like a sacred, safe place. It’s knowing that I will be always be a part of you, no matter what. I will always have that person to turn to. They are not afraid to tell me the truth, chastise me, and they always do things with my best interests at heart. They always want the best for me and consider you at every step of the way.

Love can mean being vulnerable…

Love can mean being vulnerable. There is that element of trusting someone with your innermost feelings and insecurities in the hopes that they will comfort you, accept you or understand you. It’s scary and liberating at the same time. I used to be afraid of being vulnerable with someone, but I strongly believe you can never experience great love without being vulnerable.

I cannot put conditions on the people I love…

Love isn’t selfish or self-serving. I cannot put conditions on the people I love. Meaning that if they don’t do XYZ I will decide to take my love away and stop loving them. I may be disappointed, sad or hurt but I will still love the person.

Love is being able to trust that person with your life. I can’t imagine anyone I love having bad plans or hoping something bad happens to me. I always hope for the best for the people I love and I genuinely want them to progress in life. No jealousy!

Love to me means forgiveness. This is huge, but I think a great hallmark of love is the ability to forgive. First things first, people are irritating as hell, lol.  Someone is always going to do something that will annoy you. And you can place your trust in people,  but they’ll eventually disappoint you. I can’t hold their mistakes against them and this means forgiving and forgetting. Love is not perfect!


Romantic love is peculiar to me seeing as how I’ve never experienced it. I’ve never been at that height of emotion with any one, but I personally think it is a beautiful thing for two people to care so deeply for one another. Even more so when they decide to tie the knot!
I don’t consider myself to be a very romantic person. I’m pretty simplistic in my views when in comes to love. I don’t believe in the concept of a “soul mate” or “prince charming”.  I am definitely open to idea of falling in love but the thought of falling deeply in love with someone is completely unfathomable at this point.

I just wonder how the transition from “boy I think is cute” to “I want to spend the rest of my life with you” happens? I just don’t understand it yet. I hate people too much for that. Lmao

How did you celebrate valentines day? I went to class, stayed at home and watched One Punch Man! Very uneventful for the occasion, but also relaxing!

Anndd how did you know you were in love?

What does love mean to you?



  1. February 15, 2018 / 3:49 pm

    Aww I enjoyed reading this. I did not see the end coming though 😂 Girl, I hate people too but somehow in the midst of it all I found someone amazing. I celebrated Valentine’s Day at home eating and sleeping. Love is everything you’ve said (you couldn’t have said it better). Love is a decision. Waking up everyday and deciding to love someone.

    – Tosin

    • thepearlylife
      February 17, 2018 / 3:22 pm

      Haha and that’s amazing and beautiful! That means there’s hope for me since I highkey hate people.

      And it definitely a decision, you’re so right! Thanks for the lovely comment! ❤️❤️

  2. February 15, 2018 / 4:34 pm

    This was so interesting to read! I like how you describe love, because I have the same thoughts. It’s about trust, respect, and being vulnerable with them. I never thought about romantic love before Rory. At the beginning, I did think he was cute, and really like him. The longer we were together and the more we got to know each other, that like developed into love and after years of dating and then living together, we both wanted to take that next step and get married 🙂
    Ooh also One Punch Man is such a good show!!

    • thepearlylife
      February 17, 2018 / 3:23 pm

      Awww that’s cute!! Love is like a gradual slow burn that builds up over time, like in your case! And you and Rory are sooo cute! Thank you for the lovely comment ❤️❤️

  3. February 15, 2018 / 4:38 pm

    Loved this post; love is so beautiful! Hope you had a good Valentine’s Day hun xx

    • thepearlylife
      February 17, 2018 / 3:23 pm

      Thank you girl! I hope you had an awesome day too!❤️❤️

  4. February 25, 2018 / 11:56 pm

    Hey Pearl! Interesting to read about your view and experience with luuuuurve. There are different kinds of love and different states of love too. Our generation seems to only obsess over the emotional high that comes with romantic love. But I believe true true love is beyond just emotions. It is an intentional decision…infact an informed decision to be dedicated to one person for life. Cause if it is only based on superficial emotions, that will wear off over time 🙂

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